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Monday, July 21, 2014

Two Months -- In Memorium

54 days ago, I drove through the state of New York, introducing my boyfriend to my mother's family.

48 days ago, one of those previously healthy aunts fell suddenly ill.

6 days ago, she died.

I occasionally hear stories about healthy people dying of terrible diseases in what feels like the time it takes to snap my fingers. Everyone has. Now I have one of my own, and it's one of the reasons for the radio silence here for the past few weeks. It's hard to know what to say about my own life when someone I love is fighting a losing battle for hers.

It is true that Laura lived a full life. She traveled the world, she married, she had a loving family, an education, and a career. She gave new life to houses over 100 years old. She grew up on a farm and went on to work with computers. She began life as a member of an extremely strict sect of Christianity and ended it with the assistance of a psychic and the spirit world. She experienced far more than I have, perhaps more than I ever will. That eases the pain of her passing, but not as much as I would wish.

Her death was a complicated and uncertain affair, and I hope that in the years to come I can make peace with it. In the meantime, I am glad to know that she has finally reached a place that is free of pain, a place where struggle and frustration are no longer necessary. I am grateful for the last time I saw her, a too-brief visit that almost didn't happen. And I will remember her tenacity, love, beauty, and strength until the day I join her.
Aunt Laura
 Laura last February, towards the end of her life, with one of my cousin's sons.

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